The post traumatic days go by…My mind is fuzzy, my motions are in slow motion…I can’t seem to organize even one thought in my brain… This is what happened…
The last I wrote, Ray was hospitalized with pneumonia. Later tests also found he had sepsis. I was at home with the kids when I got a phone call from the doctor, due to the noise of the wrestling kids I only got spurts of sentences…”he …episode…blood clot…icu…” Ok I have no idea what was in the middle of all that and honestly, Josiah has gotten into pinching really hard and he had Eli pinned to the ground in a death pinch on his face and was threatening to bite him too…so… I said thank you. Because honestly, it did not matter what I missed, I knew I had to get to the hospital. I called Micah at work ( we are so fortunate to own a small business where the boys work). He came home and I left in my Lularoe piggy leggings just because they make Ray smile. When I got in the room, they had Ray on a bipap machine to help him breathe… The pigs did make him smile🙂 The nurse said that he had an episode of low blood pressure, high heart rate and inability to breathe. It scared them. They called the ICU up for a consult to make sure there was nothing more that needed done. They were going to intubate him and asked if he had an advance directive. He said no…and “I have a three year old.” So they prepared to move him to ICU but the floor nurses with the ICU doctor were able to stabilize him there with the bipap. The two theories were: a blood clot (primary care doc thought this, but he is on continuous thinners) or septic shock (ICU doc thought that was what happened).
My sisters had a few days of talking me out of a panic attack…and praying for me…as all of you did too; most not knowing the extent of what was happening. Please, if we ever come to mind: pray…God sure knows and he prompts prayer from those he knows will be faithful to his nudge…
We are so fortunate to have Ray back home with us again.
After release from the hospital, they wanted to remove all sources of infection. He has had a new pic line placed…and he had 23 teeth pulled. yeah ouch…major ouchie (without being put to sleep too) So he has been on a liquid or processed in a blender diet. He will get new teeth hopefully by the holidays🙂
He missed chemotherapy due to being sick and had not had a treatment for a month. And we were anxious about what his multiple myeloma was doing…but PRAISE God with his bloodwork from this week…his cancer numbers have NOT risen!! Praise God!!
Meanwhile…God somehow has provided money to keep our bills mostly paid for home and the business… and I just am amazed that somehow, someway, through the loyal customers, through the fleet customers that are so forgiving when Ray is forgetful…every week we have just a little bit of money to go another day and keep the doors open. We thank God every day for our friends and family that keep us afloat…May God bless you mightily.
As babies are being placed, desired, and sought with special needs, children that are a little older wait…and wait…and wait. Lots of families want to adopt…infants…. But doesn’t EVERY child need a family?? I know some families do not feel equipped to jump right in there and bond with little people that are already partially formed, partially grown… but just read and consider these situations anyway!! Pray for them, pray for their families to find them…and pray and just see if your heart is drawn to any of them…who knows… just maybe one of these situations is YOURS!!
These situations are all through Special Angels Adoptions…either directly or they are the mediatory agent between the adopting parents and the placing agency… There is NO fee to be presented or to be on Special Angels’ registry of families.
The Pacific Western States:
1. A four year old Boy that has been diagnosed with hydrocephalus and septo-optic dysplasia that is not as severe as the doctors expected. This little guy has a feeding tube because of reflux and currently does not take any food by mouth. He has been scooting😀 and may soon walk even though he has been diagnosed with cerebral palsy! He is stable medically and has no current issues with the ventricular shunt. He is Happy and loves to babble!! and is a redhead !! He currently is on medication to control seizures. He is developmentally delayed. This momma wants an OPEN adoption. Mom is looking for a family that is traditional, married with 1-4 children, but will consider other families that can show her how they will be able to meet this little guy’s needs.
Fees for this situation: if Special Angels Adoption, an agency, is needed for application for subsidies, $8,300.
However, if you do not want Special Angels Adoptions to be involved and you want to get subsidies on your own, or don’t need them; Special Angels will step out and you can do your own adoption attorney to attorney!
2. A birth father, who has sole custody, is seeking to place his eight year old son who has Septo-optic dysplasia. He cannot see shadows and has no vision at all. He has light sandy hair and green/brown eyes. He uses a small white cane and can communicate using basic ASL. He takes medication for a growth deficiency and is small in size. He has some developmental delays. He has really started to do a lot of new things and is making progress!! He can eat and go potty by himself. This guy loves jazz, classical and R&B music. He loves being read to and is starting to learn Braille. He loves water and wants to learn how to swim.
Fees for this situation are $5000 not including finalization in your state.
3. A family is sought for a little six year old boy. He is seven years old and he is described by his family as precious, funny, sweet and can be caring. He loves to be a helper and needs to be affirmed after he does something good. He loves to swim, ride bikes and play with friends. He really, really loves furry friends…so a family with a fur baby would be perfect. He is in a special program at school, he has been hospitalized for psychological help. He needs to be the baby of the family. Transitions are hard for him. He has strabismus in his eyes and wears glasses. A family with no younger children that can maintain a calm, controlled environment . He would benefit from a stay at home parent that has 6-9 months to dedicate to him to help him adjust. An open adoption is being sought.
Fees: $8,300 through Special Angels Adoption, however if an agency is not desired and you will apply for subsidies on your own, SAA will step out and you can hire an attorney on your own.
4. A grandma, who has custody, is seeking to place her 8 year old girl. Grandma is getting older and is not in good health. Consents can readily be signed. This little girl has Atatic cerebral palsy, significant cognitive delays and seizures. She can pick up her sippy cup but cant set it back down. She needs help in feeding. She remembers peoples voices well and understands a lot of the conversation around her. She can walk with support, and can go up stairs. With prompts she can do some self care. She loves to be rocked and snuggled. Music helps her go to sleep. She loves all kinds of music. When she is happy she squeals. She needs sunglasses to go outside. She is not potty trained and cannot speak. She is sensitive to temperature changes and this can cause a seizure. She does not like to have her hair brushed.
The fees for this situation are $8300, however since the legals may be higher, estimate 10,000. If you don’t need subsidies or want agency help, once again SAA will step out and let attorney’s handle the adoption.
These little ones need to find their families. If these children tug at your heart and you are homestudy ready…contact Sara… If NOT, share so they can find their home.. And pray that we all could look at ourselves a little clearer, a little closer…and know that EVERY child belongs in a family …parenting is a life long job…and their lives have just barely begun. Lets all do our part.
So much information : medications, chemotherapy, procedures, parenting, potty training….but no one ever tells you how to balance it all…That’s because there is no good answer. How do you make reservations for a family trip, the IDSC ( international Down syndrome Coalition) which we only planned on staying two nights, to a place that the littles love…and they talk about it for months, since Janaury!! and then Ray gets sick…not horribly sick but a cold…
So your choices are:
- stay home and the kids don’t get to go … again…
- or go one night alone with the kids and leave Ray at home with strict instructions and half disappoint the kids by shortening he vacation, and make the most of it…
bridge that gap somehow…
The hardest part of last year was getting to the point of acknowledging this is our new normal…this is our life…and thank God I got back in time. I drove home from Wolf Lodge in the Poconos, a five hour drive, and was home by 8:00 pm through a beautiful sunset…just beautiful …
Things went downhill fast tonight. He got the chills. I put two blankets on him. Tried to take his temp and he threw the thermometer across the room…began to talk nonsense. I asked him, “do you think you will be ok?” He said …” I think we can cut it and win.” at that point I bundled him up and we went out in the pouring rain. The only regret is I should have called the ambulance. Here we are in the ER being admitted with pneumonia. and…did I balance it right this time? I don’t know. No matter what I do, part of my decisions always seem right and part of. them wrong. All I do is keep breathing, keep swimming and most importantly, keep the Faith…Pray that Ray gets better really soon!!!
Bu my God shall supply your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19 … And Carol, see we NEEDED that food you sent yesterday…I have a list a mile long and now food is NOT on it!! Thank YOU!!
A mother is expecting a little baby in December that will be Caucasian or Caucasian/Hispanic. The expectant mother denies the use of drugs, alcohol and any mental illness. A Bundle of Joy Referral is looking for a family that will meet the expectant mother’s requests:
- A traditional adoptive couple
- An adoptive family that will commit to a semi-open or open adoption
- Agency fee: $25,000(includes birth mother expenses)
- Legal(includes finalization) $3000-$5000
- A Bundle of Joy Referral Fee: $1,500
Please respond to this opportunity on or before Friday, September 16,2016 Noon EST with a YES or NO response if you would like to be considered!
Please only contact ABOJ if you are serious:
or call: (877)890-5266
If this is not your baby, please share so the expectant mom can find the family in whose arms she wishes to place her precious little one. If this situation MEETS your criteria: please Call or email🙂 Pray for the expectant momma, this is the hardest decision in the world.
In a Pacific Northwestern state, a four year old boy with global developmental delays needs an adoptive home. Both of his birthparents agree that placement is in his best interest due to some recent changes in their family. He is Caucasian and has a special kind of sunshine smile that melts your heart. He is working on potty training and beginning to learn signed language for communication. This little guy will be transitioned into his new home quickly once a family is found since the momma is getting overwhelmed. The agency for this placement is Special Angels Adoptions and they would LOVE to speak to any interested families!!
Please email: email@example.com or firstname.lastname@example.org for more information!
If this precious child of God is not your little boy, please share so he can find his family very, very soon.
Pray for the birth family who has decided to place him into a new loving home, and pray for the little guy during his transition…and for the families who will decide whether to say YES or no. Please do consider saying yes…
I was cleaning in the cellar while the littles were napping. Faith was folding clothes, Mazie and Benjamin were watching The Pink Panther, and Shyloh was picking apples in the fence. I sent Mazie out with a load of pipes to take to Ray’s garage. We heard what sounded like some neighbor kids yelling, and did not pay much attention. There was one long pvc water pipe that was light…Eli had gotten out of bed, so I gave it to him to carry…it was very long and he was having trouble getting it through the gate, so I went to help. The yelling was louder. I threw the pipe in the garage, Eli ran around the corner of the garage and yelled something that sounded like Shyloh and cow…. I ran. I saw that mean heifer ,full grown, had Shyloh pinned to the ground. She was in the fetal position screaming, cradling her glasses…the cow was pushing full bore from a kneeling position, twisting her head into shyloh’s hip. I yelled to Mazie, tell Dad to bring the gun and I took up the hill. I had nothing in my hand. I had nothing, no weapon…I was praying, “please God, I need something…and partway up the hill, God provided THIS:
I thanked God with tears in my eyes as I continued to charge up the hill. Shyloh was still screaming but now I had the heifer’s attention. I was in a defensive position, being down the hill from her as she began to move toward me. I swung the rope with the metal end toward her and cracked her in the left nostril …she kept coming I swung again and again..she was not coming closer, but not leaving either. With my eyes on her, I told Shy to stand UP if she could and get her club. She had taken a club with her to pick the apples but when she laid it down to pick one, the heifer had charged her. I told Shyloh to get behind me…and as we tried to keep the high ground, Ray and Ian showed up, without the gun, but now with the extra help, they herded the cow to the pen and I got Shyloh out of there….God protected her, God provided that rope and metal tie down right in front of me…without that, it could have been a much different story.
I took Shyloh to the ER. They did. contrast CT scan to be sure her kidney was ok and she was not bleeding internally since she had a deep bruise on her back and tons of contusions and scratches there. Thank God that was clear. The first reading of the X-ray on her arm that the cow stepped on, they missed the fracture of her left elbow..so I had to take her back in later for the sling and splint…God how scary…a hamburger anyone?? I was one scared and dirty momma…And our Shy, pray for her…it really shook her up.
The need for a family does not go away just because the children are older. As I well know, no matter how OLD I am, family gives me a sense of belonging and accountability. These two boys are older, and if they were younger, families would be lining up to say YES… please read and consider them…
This young boy is only 6. He has been diagnosed with Angelman syndrome. He can say a few words and communicate with pointing and grunts. He walks and loves to take baths. He can feed himself but has trouble with utensils. He is healthy and does not require any medication!
He is not potty trained. He hates when someone takes things from him and gets scared when he is somewhere unfamiliar with noises he can’t understand.
He likes toys that light up and closing and opening doors. If you have a trampoline and love to go outside, he would enjoy being with you!! He takes pleasure in riding in the car.
HE is in the NORTH WEST… and WAITING!!
(Gosh, he is one that … yep, I would be saying YES to… can’t stand it…. so someone has to say YES for me🙂
An Eleven year old boy is waiting with suspected FAS and/or autism. He is not diagnosed with either, but his family says he has trouble with cause and effect and struggles socially. This child needs a family to help him learn social behavior. He is NOT violent and does NOT have rages. He has to be supervised since he gets into things without understanding whether they are safe or not. He plays with younger children that are the same emotional and social age as he is… He is small for his age.
He has an IEP in school. His family lives where there are not services to help their son. Also, the school is very small and, even though an IEP is in place, they do not have the staff to give him what he needs.
He loves to climb trees, play video games and swim… He also is described as a great helper🙂
He is located in the NE part of the US.
The fees for both adoptions, through Special Angels adoption are each $8300.00,
including legal fees, ICPC, counseling and social work
and any work needed to help the families apply for subsidies.
Families from NY CAN apply if they do not need subsidy assistance.
Contact: email@example.com or
Think, pray and either apply or SHARE so these little guys can find their HOMES!! So they can live, grow and be loved forever.
This little guy is biracial and was born in a SE state in the US. He is now approximately four months old. During his premature birth, he experienced some trauma that resulted in a grade 4 intraventricular hemorrhage. He currently has a VENTRICULAR-PERITONEAL shunt due to hydrocephalus. He has seizures that are being controlled by medication. He is 4 months old ( 2 months adjusted) and is growing well. He is having trouble currently with acid reflux. Due to his traumatic birth injury and subsequent hemorrhage, he is at risk for moderate to severe cerebral palsy.
The birth parents have no special requests as to what family they are looking for; so, if you have been waiting for a little boy to love, he may be waiting just for YOU! The birth parents do wish for an open adoption! Sara from Special Angels Adoption has pictures and a video of this little guy to share with families that are homestudy ready and sign the non disclosure agreement with Special Angels ( there is NO FEE to sign this agreement).
This situation is being directly placed through Special Angels adoption. There is a set fee of $8500 if you are selected by the family which includes TPR and ICPC and placement fees;
post placement, travel fees are not included in the above fee.
Ohio families: this fee would also include finalization. Families from other states, finalization is extra.
For more information about this little baby boy;
If he is not your little guy, please pray for this little one and his birth family! And share! I KNOW his adoptive family is just waiting to hear about him!!
I was given permission to share the word about Shia by Mother Goose Adoptions:
Oh my gosh guys, I can’t take it!! So very precious!! In my heart of hearts, I would love to adopt another little one with Down syndrome!! They are ornery, stubborn, cute as all get out, opinionated, loving, and although they have multiple health issues, their unique way to view the world somehow adds such variety and spice to life… I could go on… Here is Shia:
Shia is a three year old very special little boy with an extra chromosome. He has overcome many health issues related to his Down Syndrome but the vast majority of those issues seem to be behind him now.
He is on a trach but has not been vented for two years. He is also on a feeding tube. His remaining issues are primarily developmental as he is at the developmental age of a 6-9 months old. He can sit with assistance and is working on his core strength to sit unaided and to hopefully learn to scoot or crawl this next year. He is aware of interactions and those he knows but is non-verbal.
An AZ family would be best so his current nurses and therapies could be more easily continued but an out of state family will be considered if they are familiar with the “system” where they live. If you are from AZ or KNOW you can transfer his services to your state: contact Creating Christian Families the adoption division of Mother Goose adoptions:
web site: http://miraclesofgrace.com/
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Someone is going to be so very blessed!
This is a GREAT opportunity for the right family. The desired family is AA (refers to African American), but I would imagine if one spouse is AA there is a CHANCE you could be considered! If it were me, I would send my info to Martine!
African American couple needed
For an AA baby girl due in October
Legal 4-5k estimated
No drugs, alcohol or mental illness
Serious inquiries only.
Email Martine if interested
As always if you don’t match the criteria, or this is NOT your baby, please share so her family can be found!!