Family needed immediately for a baby boy due next week

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UPDATE: 5/24/16 …Three very special families were presented to the birth family yesterday!! Sara thanks all of you for sharing and responding. But right now, this situation is CLOSED as the family reviews the qualified families!! So exciting! This little one will have a family right from the start!! Please pray for this little one as he is born and has surgery this week.

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Special Angels Adoption needs a family right now for a baby boy that is due next week!! This little guy is prenatally diagnosed with myeloschisis spina bifida and hydrocephalus. After birth, it is expected that he will need surgery right away. This little guy will need a special family willing to make sure he gets the therapy he needs to reach his fullest potential.

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Looking for:

a homestudy ready family with current clearances.  Your homestudy must be easily obtainable or in a format that can be overnighted, emailed or faxed as it must be received by Special Angels by MONDAY, May 23, 2016. The placing family has no preference for any particular family type or size. The birth family wants a family that will agree to an OPEN adoption. The family must sign a non-disclosure agreement with the placing agency.

Fees: approximately  $10,000, including everything except post placements and finalization. The placing agency will work with the adopting family to get adoption subsidies to help with his long term medical needs.

If this little guy sounds like your special angel, and you HAVE a CURRENT homestudy; contact

  sara@specialangelsadoption.org

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As always, if this is not your baby, please share and pray so this little one can have a family right from the start. If you think this is YOUR baby … please look for information about this particular special need and be SURE… because the worst thing you can do is the birth family pick you and then you decide… well… maybe it is too much for me…. So research and pray and call!!

Esther

 

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76 comments on “Family needed immediately for a baby boy due next week

    • Unfortunately, due to the immediacy of this situation… a current homestudy is a must. But, keep your eyes open after you are ready because most special situations are very quickly born and matched!

  1. Not going to lie this kind of sickens me. Not only is the child diagnosed with spina bifida and hydrocephalus as my son Christopher except Christopher has the most severe one. But their family wants an open adoption and the adoptees to Pay 10k…. so they want the joys of having a child but not the hardships that come with having a child with a disability and surgery. It’s pretty sad. Truly hope that this little one finds a family that will truly love him for all the gifts he was given.

    • I am sure he will find the perfect family. The fees are not demanded by the birth family, but they are legal and agency fees to pay for all of the legalities: tpr, counseling at the birth family’s request, icpc, time spent filling out paperwork by the agency for obtaining subsidies, follow up as needed… helping mediate the open adoption agreement. If you have been in the adoption world much recently you would recognize these fees are very low.

      • I recently adopted a beautiful baby girl through OPEN adoption..and the lawyer fees were 600.00..it doesnt have to cost thousands of dollars..sad it takes that in most cases to give a child love..hope this child gets the love it needs and deserves.

      • The fees are what sickens me.. Adoption is leagal sales of babies.. We went through an agency for our first adoption. We had a crap to of fees almost 6 times what this childs fees are. Our second and 3rd adoptions were out of foster care we receive amazing ongoing support, we received the same if not more services that the agencies offer and our “fees” were less than $500.00 to adopt our children..

      • I have posted this makes the 3 time … SOMETHING IS NOT RIGHT WITH THIS. FOR 1, WHY WOULD ANYONE WANT TO SEND MONEY AND HOME STUDY VIA EMAIL FAX OR EVEN BY MAIL..COME ON NOW , FOR 2 , OPEN ADOPTION REALLY IF THEY WANT A OPEN ADOPTION WHY DON’T THEY JUST KEEP THE LITTLE GUY AND YOUR AGENCY CAN HELP THEM .. 3 10,OOO DOLLARS NO WAY IN HELL IT COST THAT TO ADOPT A CHILD.. I CAN CAN AND WILL DO IS PRAY FOR THAT INNOCENT LITTLE GUY

      • Sorry Judy, I am just a mom with a blog. I do let most comments go through unless they are vulgar. I spent my Saturday with my children and did not screen these as soon as they came in. So now your comment is public. Thank you.

      • I recently went through an adoption and these fees are ridiculous. My adoption was a private adoption as well so I paid all out of pocket and paid only a fraction of this in attorney fees, legal fees, etc. The cost these “agencies” charge is ridiculous and is cause for a lot of children not being able to find their forever home.

      • so the adoptive family would pay for tje bio family’s counseling? why? that is ridiculous. Do we need to pay their bills too? why are they given this special treatment when the adoptive family is getting the boot by paying 10k.
        I’m sorry but there is something wrong with the system. and even if other agenices have their fees high,like you say that does not make this fee any better. The adoptive family will have so many bills to come having to care for a child with disabilities,because if you have been in the child with disabilities world you know how expensive this is, why can’t they drop the fee? it would make it alot easier and faster for baby boy to get adopted.
        praying for you little baby ♡

    • I agree with u if there going to give him up they don’t need to be able to see him ever if 5hey can’t care for him 5hen leave him and his new family along

  2. I’m sorry this bothers me beyond beleif!
    This child is not a commodity to be sold for “rehoming fees” by a private for profit company- the adoption industry in America is sickening and this is completely wrong.

    • Yeah, the adoption system in America is rather upsetting, but that’s not unique to this family or situation; it’s just (unfortunately) the way things are right now. It needs fixing, yes, but that’s in no way this family’s fault. This must have been a hard decision for the family – wanting to be part of this child’s life (or, at least, I’m assuming so from the request for an open adoption) but at the same time recognizing that – for whatever reason – they’re not in a position to take full responsibility for the child’s upbringing. Best wishes to them, and I’ll be praying.

  3. My husband and I have lost our baby a year ago. I had a miscarriage. I would have given anything to have our baby. For a family to not want their baby because they have disabilities but want to be part of their life is insane! But no one needs to judge. They could love this baby and want to be part of his life but just simply can not afford to support him. It could be a selfless act to do what is best for this baby. If I had the financial ability to do something like this I would. But for others that are able to financially support this child don’t be so easy to judge or turn the child away. The family could love this baby so much that they want what is best for him. I pray this baby and his family

  4. I’ll adopt him. But why does it cost so much more to adopt then to abort? A child’s life is worth more then murder. I have 3 grown children and 4 stepchildren that are like my own. I am always willing to welcome more children into my family and give them an amazing life.

  5. We have adopted a spina Bida child 4 years ago we we were just talking about adopting another spina Bifida child. We would have to bring our home study up to date. But we would be very much open to this.
    Keep us posted.

  6. Oh how I wish I had a current home study because I would sure send it in. My middle son has Spins Bifida, but the worst form of it, and hydrocephalus. SB babies are such a joy. This baby will be a blessing to the family that is chosen.

  7. Sweet baby, he’s got some trials ahead of him. I hope and pray he will be blessed with a loving family to call his own. Also praying that he is left whole and happy as he was created to be. ❤

  8. HOLD UP SOMETHING IS UP HERE , MY COUSIN ASKED ME TO SHARE THIS AND I DID BUT THERE IS SOME SERIOUS ISSUES HERE , FOR ONE, 10,000 DOLLARS TO ADOPT IS BS WE KNOW WE JUST DID IT WE HAVE HAD OUR DAUGHTER SINCE 2013 AND IT DIDN’T EVEN COST HALF OF THAT, FOR 2 … A OPEN ADOPTION UHHH NO CAN NOT WOULD NOT DO THAT THAT IS RIDICULOUS IF THAT’S THE WAY THEY WANT IT THEN KEEP HIM AND YOU GUYS THERE AT YOUR AGENCY HELP THEM TAKE CARE OF THE CHILD… WE ARE FOSTER PARENTS WE HAVE HAD 26 KIDS IN AND OUT OF OUR HOME PLENTY OF HOME STUDIES DONE AND YOU ARE ASKING PEOPLE TO FAX OR EMAIL , WE’LL OUR HOME STUDY COST US 500 DOLLARS AND HAS ALOT OF PERSONAL INFO ON IT NO WAY WOULD ANYONE IN THERE RIGHT MIND DO SOMETHING LIKE THAT NOW GET REAL HERE …. I HOPE AND PRAY THAT THE LITTLE GUY FINDS A HOME AND IS STRONG ENOUGH TO FIGHT HIS ILLNESS. ….

    • You need to remember, foster adoption are paid … the fees are astronomic. But they are paid by the taxpayers. So if you added up all of the hours spent on one particular case, the cost of the courthouse hearings etc… it would not take you long to see how the costs can add up. The homestudy is going to go to a licensed agency the email address is for the agency. And this is not my agency, I am just a mom with a blog that helps agencies find homes for special ones. Thank you.

      • You keep making references that the fee for foster adoptions are paid by tax dollars, almost as if it is a burden to tax payers. If that is what you are meaning I have to say that I really don’t think anyone paying taxes would have an issue with the money going to help place a child in a loving safe home, I mean we have to pay taxes, we are paying for able bodied adults to lay around and collect welfare, or people who continue to have child after child with no intentions on supporting them their idea is oh well just add them to the household welfare account.
        To have a agency charge a fee like this and then to add counseling for birth parents, all the medical care and expenses that he will need added to the basic necessities of any child clothing food diapers etc. Oh and let’s not forget birth parents who want to be able to see him when they want, wow its gonna take a saint to take all this on. Hopefully there is a wealthy saint that will come forward, because of the additional fees charged by the agency pretty much cancels out a working class family full of love to offer..
        Prayers for Lil baby and prayers for the process of adoption agencies to change

      • Many birth parents do not desire the foster system to get involved in the placement of their baby. These families have done nothing to attract CYS and would prefer it to stay that way. Involvement by the state is not what this family desires. I agree that no one would ask that the state not support foster children and adoptions; but those adoptions are usually because parental rights of the birth parents are involuntarily terminated. Unlike this case. Keep asking the questions! You would want to be paid if you worked too… Agencies are just trying to make a living. Most of the social workers in this arena have tons of education ( at least a masters degree to be licensed) and have all of the costs of advertising, mailing, office space… they are not independently rich. I am sure you would need expenses paid as well to keep your doors open. Thank you for the comments…

    • There’s no need to type in all caps, it makes it seem like you’re shouting at everyone. Every adoption is different, and no one’s saying you have to pay these fees to adopt this little one, so you can do it your own way. Some situations have to be handled in certain ways, all we can do is pray for the sweet baby.

  9. My step brother had hydrocephalus as a young child (maybe a baby) and he had a shunt put in. He is now a 30 year old man with no health problems. I know this sweet angel boy will find a wonderful loving home.

  10. I do work but I have a daughter n daughter n law that would help around the clock with this baby. I live in a two bedroom mobile home with no children. The baby would b cared for at all times. Anyone is more than welcome to come into my home n do a home study.

  11. I would love to take him as my son has spina bifida occulta and hydrocephalus, along with other various disabilities. I am far accustomed to the therapies and long term surgeries needed, but I have no clue how to get a current home study. 😦

    • Jayne, the homestudy process is usually a few weeks to a few months in length to be approved. You would need to find an adoption agency in your area that does home studies and contract with them to complete one for you. It requires background checks, references, home inspection, and paperwork.

  12. I am a 35 y/o female married with an 8yr old son. I am a certified occupational therapist asst. and Manage a rehab facility. We are willing to take this little angle on. I have always wanted to have another child yet with even fertility have not had the chance. I do not have a home study in place or application. Let me know where I need to go from here. If we are not the family let me know that too. Thank you!!

    • Homestudies take a while. To get a homestudy, you need to contact a local adoption agency and they will give you the list of paperwork, clearances and references you need. Also, a home inspection always is part of the process. Good luck!

  13. What does a homestudy contest of
    An I would love to be there for this little boy! I pray all goes well an I couldn’t imagine not being there for this little boy I hope he gets his special home!

    Sending love an lots of hugs an kisses

    Sincerely,
    Tessa Mineer

    • A homestudy consists of a lot of paperwork: biographies, references, interviews, home inspection visit, clearances (FBI, police and in our state childline) … this is all compiled and the agency writes a homestudy!! This document states that you are approved to adopt. Only licensed adoption agencies or social workers can write and sign this document…then you are ready to adopt!

  14. This poor lady I’m reading all these comments and she’s been a trooper to say the least, to be so polite when in some cases she didn’t have to. Also the time it takes from her family … just to hope that a baby gets adopted! Your an angel Esther.
    Signed … a mom of two.

  15. So apparently only “rich” people are good enough to adopt? This angel is going to cost thousands apon arival, and they want thousands just to bring him into a loving home? Seems fishy to me. Background check, home study, and ensure the child is safe, this should never cost this much. We wonder why young people choose abortion instead of adoption, look at the outlandish costs, it is a no brainer, I will pray for this baby and that he finds a good loving home.

    • No not only rich people adopt. We have adopted quite a few times, no one would ever call us rich 🙂 But the birth mother is not paying the fees, so this would never influence a mom’s decision to place or to abort. That is exactly why the fees are designed to be paid by the adopting parent. All life matters, and sometimes things that matter cost us something.

  16. We have the means to give him all the love, medical care he needs. We just don’t have the $10,000 adoption fee. I have have a lot of experience with special needs children. We would be a perfect match for this little guy since I have been told it isn’t medically safe for me to have any more children. We have done fertility treatments for almost 8 years and God finally blessed us with our Rainbow baby boy. I just wish we had the adoption fee.

    • I do understand that 🙂 I can honestly say, if you think adoption is something you want to consider… all of us that have adopted know sometimes it comes easily, and sometimes it comes hard…but there are ways to work on saving the money to do it. For us, it was a sacrifice, but worth every penny.

  17. We would so blessed to take this baby and give all that life has to offer him and we’ve a lot of training in dealing with kids who had special needs but the money that you have to come up which is way makes it so hard for families to step up. Sound like this baby will need a lot and to ask a family who will already spend a lot money to care for the baby the 10,000 is not reasonable.

  18. This is ridiculous and sounds a little shady. 1…I am sorry they are about to have a disabled child, but if he was healthy would they put him up for adoption then. 2…I am an adopted child in no way is this 10k fee fair or necessary unless someone want to be paid to feel better about a bad hand they were dealt. 3…open adoption is completely unfair, “So I can’t take care of my less than perfect child but I want to be able to see him and let him know what great thing I have done for him.” All while another person foots the bill plus some. Raise your kid or let someone loving be there for him with no interference. God bless this little boy that he may be born whole in Jesus name for the glory of God.

  19. I am adoption certified in AZ, and have experience with children with special needs ( I have several special needs children). I do get the right therapies and services for all of my children.. I would love to have this child, but cannot afford those fees. I am so very sorry.

  20. While lots of people are saying negative things about the fees or the bio parents wanting an open adoption, we should all just be thankful that this baby has been given life instead of aborted and that there are families lining up to adopt him. I pray that the sweet little guy has a safe birth, a successful surgery, and is placed with a loving family.

  21. Hi Ester can you recommend someone who could do a home study in MA? either an agency or independent social, worker thank you

  22. Hello, Doug and I (Amanda) have been married for 16 yrs, together close to 20 yrs. We have a 13 yr old biological daughter. We have tried for years 10 or more to grow our family. We have tried fertility treatments with many failed outcomes. We have suffered at least 10 miscarriages. We have prayed and cried and asked God why? We have felt He was leading us to the greatest gift of His children in other ways. We have been through foster/adoption classes at least twice and had one visit left on our home study. Unfortunately God had other plans at the time. We know in our hearts this is something we are to do, however it’s in God’s time and it just wasn’t our time.
    However it has come back to our minds, hearts and souls again. I saw your site one Facebook. We are open to many possibilities and gener makes no difference to us. We both have medical backgrounds and understand the needs of special children. As we have friends whom has extra needs than most children. Our daughter is very caring and very social. She says she just lonely and would love to be a big sister. She does have a lot of friends, which she is involved in, but says she wants someone(s) to be her sibling and forever family.

    Thank you for listening and God Bless,
    Hope we’ll be able to help in the future.

    The Puderbaugh’s (Doug,Amanda,and Avery)

  23. Everything costs money, people. The same could be argued for medical care for humans. Why should we have to pay to receive life saving attention? Because there is a cost for everything. That’s how the world works. The people that provide all of these services had to pay huge costs for college to learn to do what they do, huge costs to take tests to become legal to do what they do, huge costs for continuing education to maintain their licenses to remain legal, huge costs for insurance and other overhead to allow them to do what they do, and at the end of it all of their own families to provide for. Become a cost-accountant and you’ll learn real quick that everything has it’s price, and a price far beyond the obvious.

    And don’t judge these people. You don’t know their situation. So what if you did X, Y, or Z. Good for you. You are not them, and they are not you. Clearly, by requesting an open adoption this isn’t something they WANT to do. It’s tough love. They are putting this child before their own selfish wants. Respect them for it. Respect the fact that they could have aborted but instead came to this place.

  24. I have always thought about something like this but I’m really ignore to the fact of the $$$$ part of the whole situation. Now in this situation you’re talking about 43,000.00 what & who pays this? Yes I realize that this unborn child is already addicted to different things but who’s responsibility is it once the child is born to pay for the treatment of getting the child the proper treatments that he/she is going to be needing & for how long?

  25. Seriously this is even more heartbreaking. My husband is a cop going on 17 years and I’m a medic. We live to help people we don’t know and love what we do. However, we are infertile my eggs are bad and tubes his swimmers are bad. We can’t afford an embryo no one donates them anymore. We can’t afford to adopt. We have all this love to share. Just want 1 child a family. Yet because we do public service as a cop and medic we can’t afford to. How is this right in any way. So many kids need a home and love. We have it to give. We just don’t have thousands of dollars to adopt or buy on embryo because we choose to help others. Really what kind of world is this that to even give a baby a kid a home it’s based on money for fees.

    • Have you considered going the foster adopt direction? Our first adoption was through foster care and the fees are minimal. The fees are so low or nonexistent because the taxpayers pay the service providers (the social workers, lawyers and legal fees are covered by taxpayers). In an agency or private adoption, these fees are paid by the adopting parents.

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