She wanted a home for Christmas, But Santa did not Deliver

She wanted a Home for Christmas, but Santa did not deliver

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In a Southeastern state, there is an eleven year old girl who, through no fault of her own, has been passed around from family member to family member… Her birth mother has decided it is enough and she really wants a more stable home for her daughter. Her birth mother has been diagnosed as bipolar/depressive.

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 This little one has older siblings and it is thought the best family would have no children younger than her. She really needs an experienced parent or parents to love her and give her the structure she so badly needs. Her momma said she has always had trouble bonding with her little girl from the time she was born… her momma admits that they are a dysfunctional family and wants more for her daughter. This little one has been diagnosed with autism, but is very high functioning and the autism is mild; she does take two medications to help with some of the symptoms from this diagnosis.

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The agency met with the little girl and she is excited to have a stable home. In the past, she really loved a beagle that they had for a time and wishes to have pets!! She plays outside. She loves the color purple!! She wants to have a basketball hoop in her new home. She wants to learn gymnastics and how to ride a horse…

There is so much more to tell about this very charming, smart, and curious little girl!!

 

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If you are interested in adopting this little one who needs a family IMMEDIATELY and moved to a permanent home ASAP and have a current homestudy and can send it along with a profile ; please contact me at swissprimel@verizon.net and I will forward your email to the placing agency…

Fees are $10,000 for all agency fees. Attorney fees are extra.

THIS IS NOT A GUARDIANSHIP situation; so please do not reply if that is the only kind of situation you are considering; that just would not be fair to this little girl who needs something more…

IF she is NOT your little girl, please, please pray she finds her family today.

Esther

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You are overwhelmed and looking for a family

If you reached this blog because you are a Mom or/and a Dad and looking for a home for your special needs little one;

 If your child or children are

  already born or

maybe you just got news from one of your prenatal tests that you are expecting a little one that you love so much but are overwhelmed with the thought of being a mommy or a daddy to a special angel…

First of all, I am so sorry ….

but know, coming to this page was not a mistake. God loves you and loves your baby too. There is a plan and a purpose for their life and what is happening right now in your life. Thank you for looking at adoption as a possible choice for your little one(s).

Let me reassure you…there are families that would feel blessed to be there forever  for your baby or child

no matter the diagnosis.

If this is YOU, contact me at my personal email : swissprimel@verizon.net and I WILL help you find the family that you imagine…

I am not an agency, not a facilitator, not a professional…just a mom, and we will speak mom to mom…

A seven year old African American Nevada Princess

Update: 1/26/15 at 4:00pm Eastern Time… This situation is ON HOLD while they screen the families who have responded! I will let you know as soon as there is another update 🙂 Thank you all so much for caring and sharing!!

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This is not a picture of her sorry…Picture is only available to interested families.

There is little girl that is seven. A princess, loving to have her hair fixed pretty; nail polish and the works.

Twirling around with strips of paper, she just needs the music inside of her soul to dance. She needs a new family to help her grow into the lady that is inside of her.

Her momma just moved away from grandma and momma just cannot do it alone.

This little one is African American and diagnosed as mildly autistic. The agency has been looking for a family for a while and asked if I could help. I am praying that God raises up her family and they see this post. So please share it… Here is the information that I have:

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  • Location: Las Vegas, Nevada
  • Fees: $11,000 including everything except finalization
  • Loves dogs
  • Is NOT aggressive or violent!!!
  • Shows her discomfort by withdrawing
  • Is not currently in school (was in school prior to moving)
  • Loves to be hugged
  • Covers her ears with loud noises
  • Not very verbal but can make her wishes known
  • Plays mostly by herself
  • Is toilet trained!!
  • Has three favorite morning TV shows
  • Eats most everything except for milk and carrots
  • Loves to play with paper and learn and play toys for children
  • The birthfather is known but not involved in her life

The birth mother is open to all family types. The agency requires a current home study and profile.

If the description of this little girl touches that yearning part of you; and your heart says,

..”this one, this one I have been waiting for… even though I have never met her or held her”…

and you know you could be her family forever:

contact Jeanna at hopeembracedadoptions@gmail.com

Esther

I offer this blog as a service to you. If you feel led, please consider adding to our adoption fund. I spend a lot of time communicating with and sharing the available situations at no cost to you. I want to keep it that way.  We can only work within our state at this time and our agency special needs situations are $16,000 for placement fees. And we had to say no last week…Help us say yes next time…

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Is there No One? Indiana and Illinois two urgent adoption situations

10/7/14 update on both situations: Mom of the baby due Oct 15th is still waiting for him to be born but she has selected a family!! The little five year old boy with autism has a potential family as well !! So your sharing and sharing some more has resulted in these children finding their forever homes!!

DSCN10109/25/14 Mom’s labor stopped, and she was sent home, giving Sara time to screen the many emails she received. The result, FIVE that is right FIVE families’ profiles have been sent to the mom so she has a CHOICE!! You did it! You shared, and shared some more. This little guy will have a family to love him from day 1!!

9/23/14 Mom in labor still no families. Fees set at $10,000 including finalization in IL for all families including out of state families.

9/22/14 and another NEW update: Sorry those of us in adoption know how quickly statuses of situations can change: For the BABY due on OCT: ALL THREE FAMILIES HAVE BACKED OUT!!! This does not happen very often, but it does happen. so as a result: both situations remain OPEN!! Please contact sara@specialangelsadoption.org if you are interested in either one.

9/22/14 For the little one that is due in October, three families have been presented and they are awaiting the expectant mother’s decision.

The little five year old boy, still has NO ONE!! So if you are thinking about him and he is on your mind; pray for him to find his family. If you are homestudy ready and hesitating… why? I hear so many complaints about the foster care system; how families are interested, apply and they hear nothing… they get tired of working with the “system” that is so slow in its response and placement of children. Few children five and under are placed and I know there are families that specifically are looking for a non-baby since they work and don’t want to worry about baby things…yet still he is waiting… please re read below and contact SARA if you are interested in being presented. sara@specialangelsadoption.org

9/15/14 @ 2:00pm Eastern. This post has been altered, the baby will be born in Illinois, not Indiana; the little five year old, however, is in Indiana. So sorry for the confusion, it was an unintended miscommunication.

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I posted both of these situations at the end of last week and NO one came forward that was homestudy ready and sent their profile.

So as of yet, neither of these children have a family!! Share and pray for them!!

Please, these children have value, these children are wanted and desired by God and loved by Him. As an avid pro-life/ abolitionist momma and Christian, I want us to show that, we as Christians, value all life; that every life is precious to Our Creator.

I know there are families out there that are ready and will say yes.

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Illinois families especially, this baby could come home from the hospital with no icpc, no waiting in another state, no changing health providers, much easier time to file for adoption subsidy…

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and the little boy who is  in Indiana, needs someone who can stand in the gap and help him grow and learn about the Savior who died for him in his own way, and in his own time.

They are of the same value to God as each of us, and, by our actions, we show how much we believe that.

Both situations are open to every state!!

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John 9: 1-3;1As He passed by, He saw a man blind from birth. 2And His disciples asked Him, “Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he would be born blind?” 3Jesus answered, “It was neither that this man sinned, nor his parents; but it was so that the works of God might be displayed in him.…

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Situation 1- He is Five,

  • He is in the state of Indiana.
  • He has Autism.
  • He does not talk but communicates his needs.
  • He can feed himself and walks.
  • He has some Behavior Issues But, Since Starting Special Preschool, he is Doing better.
  • It is felt he will do great with consistent therapy such as ABA.
  • Also, he will do the best with consistent parenting with schedules.
  • He Is trying to talk and working on potty training

Fees are $5500,Must be homestudy ready please email Sara At sara@specialangelsadoption.org

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Situation 2- He is Caucasian and due in Mid October in the state of Illinois.

  • We are looking for a special family to open their hearts to a Caucasian boy due in October.
  • He has been prenatally diagnosed with schizencephaly and absent corpus callosum.
  • This is a spectrum disorder but most have developmental delays with some very severe.
  • The fees will be no more than $13,500 but may be considerably less, includes termination of parental rights and ICPC. 

Please email Sara at sara@specialangelsadoption.org . We need to find a family as soon as possible – Oct. will be here very quickly.

They were created to show God’s glory.. John 9: 25 One thing I know, that, whereas I was blind, now I see…

thINL86EBZI cannot promise it will be easy with either of these children, but what I can promise is that you will not do it alone. God will be with you Every step of the way…and He will See you.. He is a GOD who SEES.

Esther

2 situations A baby boy with schizencephaly, A five year old with autism

Just that quick

I can remember going into the obstetrician and getting that look, something was wrong. I remember the big swallow and the silence.

I remember…

In my case, my little one had already passed there inside and there was no hope, none at all.

This first situation, this momma had to go through the same type of thing. She thought everything was fine with her little munchkin, until that day. She will remember that day, we all do.

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This expectant family is looking for a potential adoptive family to adopt her little boy who is due in October

He is Caucasian. He has been prenatally diagnosed with schizencephaly and absent corpus callosum.

Understand, there is no way to know how severely or how mildly he will be affected, this is a spectrum disorder but in the majority of cases there are developmental delays, some of which are very severe.

The fees for this situation will be no more than $13,500, but may be considerably less. Please if you are homestudy ready ( you must be due to the closeness of the due date) and interested in being the family to love a little one who so needs someone to advocate for him:

Contact sara@specialangesladoption.org

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They hoped it was not so, they so hoped that they could manage, but they did not have the emotional resources, they did not have the support, they just can’t do it anymore: He has Autism

He walks and feeds himself, he communicates some, but speaks just a little. He is only five. He just started a specialized preschool and is improving!! Yeah! But he really could benefit from ABA therapy. It would be the best for him if he were the youngest in the family.

The fees for this situation are $5500. Once again, please only reply if you are homestudy ready and serious about considering being his family from this time and forevermore.

Once again the contact is : sara@specialangelsadoption.org

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I know they have families, because God puts the lonely into families…He does a great job at it too!! So please share and apply if these children touch your heart and you are READY!!

Esther

Needed: Three different adoptive families for Three Preschoolers

April 8, 2014: 7:19pm  sara from special angels adoption says that she still especially needs families for the little girl…

situation 2. So please, if you are considering contacting sara concerning the little princess that has a syndrome that is similar to autism in behavioral characteristics… please do!! sara@specialangelsadoption.org th[9]

Situation 1

He is only four, He is Caucasian.

He is one of 68…He has autism.

He needs someone to help him through life, someone who will fight for him!

He is not defined by his diagnosis. He can do so many things!!

He is high functioning and can only become who god designed him to be, if he has a family.
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Situation 2

She is hard to handle, she can be difficult, she loves all of your attention.

But, at four years old, and with a developmental syndrome similar to autism, who can determine what she will do?

What she will accomplish? What her capabilities will be…God knows and sees her…

He sees a beautiful black princess who needs a lap to sit on.

She needs a family, maybe yours?

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Situation 3

HE has trouble doing zippers and buttons, he cannot jump very well or throw a ball…

But there is time,…time for a very patient family to show him how, in spite of his new diagnosis of autism.

He has trouble telling you what he needs, and he needs so much.

He is African American, and three…and needs a hug, a safe place, therapy, and an advocate…A family.

When is it Enough?

 

If you read these descriptions and your heart aches for them, all three of them on the autism spectrum…and your arms reach for them…and you are READY…

You must have a completed homestudy….

Contact sara@specialangelsadoption.org today…they do not need to wait anymore.

 

These three children are unrelated and will not be adopted together. Fees are low with each situation.

 **I do not represent special angels adoption. I am just doing my little part to help little ones find their home. And you, my readers, in your sharing my blog and sharing the situations are doing your part… lets continue to work to make sure all children have safe and loving homes.


It’s the Small Things

My son, I wish in some way we could connect; Where you look at me with comprehension and understand that I love you. Where the barriers to communication are completely removed, but until then…

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It is the small things.

Last night, he crawled in bed behind me for a squeeze…He laughed as I squeezed him and he hugged me back.

He created his first masterpiece.

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A picture without lines to follow, or letters; beautiful to me…

He learned to do dot to dot!! He cannot recognize the pictures he makes, but he understands the concept of following the dots and quitting when the numbers run out!

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That is huge!! Usually he cannot stop in mid counting, he must FINISH… something has connected.  This is a new thing he has learned!! These small things I look for: I pray for, and it makes me feel so grateful for improvement, for growing, for progress.

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Go BENJAMIN!!

 

 

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Regression…


The most dreaded thing. It happens to Benjamin every winter…we are not sure why, but it makes a momma pray for spring.

Everything is overwhelming to him.

Smearing is occurring again. ( those who are just beginning to read about the family, Benjamin is autistic and smears…) And dog gone it he was trained!! He had almost no accidents except occasionally overnight.

The shower runs, he sits with a bucket full of rags under the spray and he spins the rags continuously in a circle. Around, around around around around…I tell him it is time to get out and he cries and screams at me, “no, no no no no…”

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Last week we had a lot of snow and I sent the kids out to play. He could not stand the feel of snow stuck to his gloves, so he took them off…we fought to put them back on, exchanging them for a fresh pair. He at least left his coat on, but NO hat, ever. Never ever a hat…

He played in his own zone for a while then I began to sob as I saw him struggle to the fence, snow up over his boots, to his thighs…his eyes on the line of the fence…and he began again to run the fence…Eyes fixed on the fence, face less than four inches from the line…going as fast as he could struggling in the high snow and he could not stop trying

..and I could not stop crying. Dog gone it, a momma is supposed to be able to fix things…

“oh my son, I love you…I am so sorry…God help him.” I could not take it long before I brought him in, and he went into the shower.

Adoption Blogger interview Project

This year I decided to participate in the adoption blogger interview project. My partner, Brooke has been more than patient with me as I struggled to meet the deadlines. In the next few posts I will tell you why.

Brooke and I found we had a lot in common. First and foremost, adoption 🙂 After that, autism, attachment disorder, following Christ and dying to self… I would love for you to “meet” her. So here are her responses to questions I asked her:

 

1. Could you please tell me about yourself, your family and what makes you you…how did you become the woman you see in the mirror?

 

I am a daughter of the King of Kings, a wife, a mom, a teacher, and a scientist. 

These verses from 1 Thessalonians have helped to define my life “And we urge you, brothers, warn those who are idle, encourage the timid, help the weak, be patient with everyone. Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always try to be kind to each other and to everyone else. Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”

 My other favorite verse is from James chapter 1, “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given to him.”

I lack wisdom daily! 

I grew up with wonderful parents, who faced many struggles, but who always took in stray kids and loved them. My husband wanted to have a home like my parents’ home–and we have taken in many stray kids–and loved them. 

My husband and I have been married for 19 years. We’ve learned to love God and love each other through the trials we’ve faced. 

We have five children. Three of them entered our family in the usual way, with morning sickness, bed-rest, and medical intervention. The other two joined our family in an unusual way: they were both twice-adopted. Garrett, our oldest biological child, is 15. He introduced us to the world of special needs when he began going developmentally backwards after turning 3. He had many symptoms of autism and life became a constant struggle. Through him, we learned that brains could heal, and that kids with special needs are not frightening. Connelly, our oldest daughter, is 13. She is amazing and has already published a novel (Torn), the first book in a trilogy (Jida’s Quest). She is currently writing book two. Annika is our 10 year old. She loves babies and animals, baby animals, and especially any baby or animal with special needs.

Back when Garrett’s behavior was so severe that we couldn’t take him in public, I remember thinking, “Either all the difficult children I’ve worked with in my life have been preparing me for Garrett, or Garrett is preparing me for something down the road. If that’s the case, I do NOT want to know what is ahead.” Now we know that Garrett perfectly prepared us for Kristina and Kelton. Kristina, who is now 8 years old, was originally adopted from Eastern Europe. She was adopted by a family who did not feel capable of parenting a child with her degree of developmental delay and special needs. They immediately sought a forever family for her. Kristina has been diagnosed with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. We adopted Kristina from them shortly after she turned 4 years old; she was developmentally between 15 and 18 months at that time and weighed just over 20 pounds. She is now doing awesome! Because Kristina was doing so well, we received a phone call about Kelton. He was originally adopted from Eastern Europe at age 5. He remained with his first adoptive family until he was 11, when they chose to terminate their parental rights due to his extremely difficult behavior. Kelton has been with our family for nearly 2 years. The first year was the hardest we have ever lived through, but now Kelton is healing. Nobody can believe how much he has changed. He is a new creation. 

I have always loved learning, and I still do brain research as a hobby. I love researching things that might work, then trying them with my children and seeing if they help. Our family doctor said she loves it when my kids have check ups because she always learns so much. Sometimes she has people call me. I love sharing what I have learned with other people. She wants me to write a book, but for now I’m just doing a blog. 

2. Currently there has been a lot of bad press concerning adoption after disruption. How did you decide that your family was willing to walk that difficult road?

We decided to adopt after disruption for the same reason we decided to adopt in the first place–we met Kristina. In all my brain research to help Garrett with his autistic symptoms, Tourette’s syndrome, and learning difficulties, I ran across information about Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. I read that because of their damaged digestive systems, kids with FAS do very well with a diet similar to what we were feeding our other kids (free of gluten, cow milk, soy, preservatives, colors). When I heard about a local family who had adopted a little girl with FAS, who didn’t want to parent her because of it, I sent information about the diet to them through our mutual friend. To make a very long, miraculous story extremely short, we knew we were supposed to adopt Kristina and feed her our diet. 

 Nothing about it was easy, but it has been very good. 

Two years later, someone who had seen Kristina’s progress, thought of us when she prayed about a family for Kelton. She was Kelton’s teacher in the Juvenile Detention Center where he stayed for 5 months because the caseworkers couldn’t find a foster family who would take him because of his behavior problems, ADHD, RAD, and Oppositional Defiant Disorder. I had been studying Reactive Attachment Disorder for two years, because of Kristina’s high risk for RAD. Somehow I knew that our next one would have it. We met Kelton at my friend’s ranch. He just thought we were some random family who happened to stop by there while he was visiting the horses. We knew he didn’t belong in the detention center, so be began the foster licensing process to adopt him. 

 Bringing Kelton home was hard. We had to get permission to home school him, because we knew that would be crucial to his healing process. He had raging meltdowns that lasted for an hour or more, several times a day. It was exhausting. I am so thankful for our Classical Conversations homeschool co-op because it kept my other kids going on their studies when I couldn’t be available to help them. The older kids matured tremendously that first year. It was hard on them. They had to learn to forgive and to love difficult people.

 Now, two years later, we are in a totally different place. Our home is filled with peace. 

 3. How does your husband’s wisdom and his parenting help in raising your children?

 My husband is amazing. I am eternally in awe of his wisdom. He is much more calm and patient than I am. I know he is exactly the dad that Kelton needed to help him heal. They have a lot in common. They both love to play their violins. My husband works many hours, but when he’s home, he’s totally present.

4. You have mentioned that you, like our family have struggled in the traditional church setting. How did your decision to home church come about, and how do you feed your soul without the structure of church?  and how could a church meet the needs of a special needs family in a more effective way?

 We do attend a traditional church which has a special needs classroom. Kristina loves her “trampoline” class–so called because of the mini-trampoline, padded floor, large balls, and other gross motor toys and activities. Annika helps out in the special-needs class every week. She loves a little boy with Down Syndrome. 

 5.. you mention nutrition as an aid in helping the children who struggle both physically and mentally. Can you describe in more detail about the link of nutrition to healing and how did you discover it?

When Garrett, who is now 15, was 5 years old, he was going developmentally backwards. He had many symptoms of autism. He screamed for hours every day. He was very aggressive. In desperation, I prayed for answers. The word, “wheat” would not leave my brain. That was not the answer I was looking for. I wanted someone to call me with a new parenting book. We were attending a parenting class at church, and I was certain that his issues were because of something I was doing wrong. 

 After arguing with God for a week about the wheat thing, I gave up. I told him, “I will do it for 1 week, because anyone can do anything for a week. I already know it won’t make a difference so I’m not telling anybody about it.” The fourth morning, Garrett woke up and smiled. He was pleasant. He was cheerful. It typically took me an hour to get him dressed each day, and longer than that to give him a bath (with both my husband and I holding him to wash his hair). That day, he undressed himself and got into the tub. He let me wash his hair–just like a normal kid! I left the bathroom to help baby Annika, and he got himself dressed. Then he cleaned up the bathroom. To see such a huge change in such a short time was incredible.  

 After that, any time Garrett accidentally got “glutenated,” he reverted right back to screaming and aggression. The reactions would last for four days. We sent him to school, but they couldn’t keep the environment safe enough for him, so we reluctantly began our homeschooling journey. (My husband had said we would never homeschool.) After I got a major attitude adjustment by listening to some very wise people, I loved homeschooling.

 When Connelly was three, we wondered why feeding her yellow treats turned her from the most compliant, sweet, pleasant little girl you could ever imagine into a screaming maniac who threw fits until she threw up. Why did feeding Connelly candy turn her into what Garrett used to be? I started researching food dyes, and learned that Yellow #5, tartrazine, is derived from coal tar, is a known carcinogen, is banned overseas, and is responsible for causing behavior changes in children. That’s when we eliminated food dyes. 

 We learned through the years that eliminating certain foods made our children behave much better. The list grew to include gluten, cow milk, soy, preservatives, and artificial colors. With Kristina, sugar and salicylates also had to be removed. Soon after Kelton joined our family, he remarked, “Eating your food makes my brain feel different. I feel less angry. My old mom didn’t love me enough to give me the food I needed.” 

I replied, “No. She just didn’t know. Many people don’t know that food affects behavior.” 

 Recently, our nutrition journey has taken a new turn. Four months ago, a friend asked me to do a 30 day cleanse with her to lose weight. I was desperate to lose my stress-induced post-adoption weight, so I agreed. It was a difficult decision to make, because I don’t usually spend money on myself, but I had tried and failed so many times that I was ready to admit I needed help (pride is always the sin that ensnares me). After two weeks on the cleanse, I felt like a new person. I had energy. My feelings of stress were gone, even though my life was still stress-filled (Kelton was still having melt downs a couple of times a week, and my conflict-seeking-Kristina was continually provoking Kelton into outbursts.) My husband, who was very skeptical, saw the changes in me and wanted to begin sharing my products. I was happy to share, because I wanted him to experience the energy and peace that I was feeling. 

 After a month, Kelton had a major meltdown and even threw toys at my mom. The next day, I started sharing my shakes with him. I only gave him a little bit, but it made a huge difference in his behavior. That was his last major meltdown. For a few months, we had been keeping behavior charts to document Kelton’s fussing, whining, arguing, complaining, and unkind speech so that he could visually see how his words affect people.  After one week on the shakes, his speech became kind. He literally stopped whining and complaining. I asked him if he noticed a difference and he said he just felt like he was changing. He thought the shakes were changing how he felt, and he just felt better. 

 I started Kristina on very small amounts of the shakes every day, and she stopped antagonizing Kelton. Their relationship changed. They actually tell each other “I love you” now. A month before we started the shakes, Kelton very seriously approached me about Kristina one day and said, “It won’t work for the two of us to live together in the same house. There is no way we will ever get along with each other. I think you need to get rid of one of us.” The whole atmosphere in our house has changed now. I wish you could feel the peace in our home. 

 Besides the peacefulness, another side benefit to adding in this nutrition has been the cognitive development in all three of my struggling learners. Writing has always been a struggle for Garrett. Last year, in ninth grade, it took him two hours to write a paragraph on a subject he loved. A few weeks ago, he was required to write a persuasive essay. It took him 30 minutes to write a 5-paragraph essay with an introduction, thesis statement, three body paragraphs which had topic and clincher sentences, and a conclusion. When he read it in class, his classmates applauded. It was a very good paper!!! He wrote a different paper a month ago, and his classmates told him he should have it published. This would have been impossible for Garrett four months ago!!!

 We were told that Kristina would probably never read, but she can now read chapter books if I move a bookmark below the words to help her keep her place. She still has vision problems, but cognitively, she is growing by leaps and bounds. She can understand math now. She is working through a first grade math book, understanding the concepts, and doing most of the work independently.

 Kelton is understanding math concepts for the first time in his life. He got 100% on his math test for the first time this week. He is also able to work independently. His thinking is much more logical now. He is able to engage in conversations rather than delivering monologues. 

 Many people from our homeschool co-op, who are astounded by the differences in our family, have asked where to buy the shakes we are using. We get them from brainhealth.isagenix.com, and if people order from that link, we do receive a referral fee which allows us to purchase more of these nutritious shakes for our kids. 

 6. Are any of your adoptions open/semi- open or closed, and why.

 Kristina’s adoption from her adoptive family was open. We did a direct-consent adoption. They wanted to choose the family where she would be placed.  Kelton was adopted through foster care so his first adoptive family does not know where he was placed. 


7. What advice would you give someone considering adoption of an older child from a disrupted adoption?

 Pray.

Make sure your marriage is strong.

Make sure that both parents are totally committed to the child. 

Research. Research. Research. 

 I had to speak at an adoption fundraiser, and Kelton wanted me to give this advice to the parents. He called it, “The Wise Sayings of Kelton.”

 When you adopt, expect to get a bratty kid and don’t be surprised when you do. You have to teach the kids how to have good behavior. They don’t already know it. You have to teach them. Don’t yell at them; it only makes them want to argue with you. Correct them, then give them a chance for a “do-over” and let them do it right. Try not to get upset, but when you do take a deep breath and EVACUATE! Go to your room or somewhere and calm down. After you are calm, then go tell the kid what he did wrong. You have to have patience to adopt a kid, but the kid will teach you to have even more patience. Kids will teach you lots of things you never knew you wanted to learn. The sign at the chiropractor says, “Healing takes time and repetition.”  Healing backs takes time at repetition, so does healing hearts.  Don’t believe the kid when he lies to you. When he says, “I don’t love you” he really does. He’s just saying it because he’s afraid you’re going to get rid of him. Have integrity. When you say, “We aren’t going to get rid of you,” actually mean it. If you don’t, you cause heart break for the kid and make the next parents have a much harder time. Read Proverbs every morning and pray before you get up so that you can get wisdom. Also, “Consider it pure joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds. For you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. Let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing. I any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God who gives generously to all, without reproach, and it will be given to him.”

It’s hard when you adopt a kid, but do it anyway.

Brooke

 

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Participating was a lot of fun, I enjoyed meeting Brooke, and I hope she enjoyed meeting me! Adoption makes you part of a community that helps you meet families that you would never have known.

 

 

 

Give Me an E in a square

DSCN0825Made the appointment with a lot of forethought. I knew it couldn’t be too early or he would not be out of bed and would be grumpy if I woke him. It couldn’t be too late or he would be too tired and hungry..it had to be just right: 11:30am. I figured if I took all of the children with me, he would not be looking for someone who was not with us. If we stopped at McDonald’s on the way, he would not be hungry or thirsty. If I showed up very close to the time of the appointment, he would not have to wait, get bored and melt down…

He yelled out the letters on the eye chart, laughing. He saw the “25” and the “5” and all of the other numbers for the color blind test and wanted to see more. He identified the shapes around the letters.. an E in a square a  25 in a circle!! All in a VERY LOUD and EXCITED tone. He was cracking up the optometrist big time 🙂 His eyes were darting all over the place as the doctor tried to  keep him from cheating and looking behind him at the wall.

And then…I hated to do it, but I needed to be sure since he has so many odd eye motions and visual stimulatory behaviors… He saw Magenta… He kept insisting it was Magenta 🙂 They dilated his eyes, saw the red dots and insisted it was Magenta !! (those of you who don’t know, Magenta is “Blues Clues” friend that has pink dots).

As for me, Love was overflowing, as was sympathy and understanding. When you “see” how differently he perceives and views even the simplest things and how excited he was to have something to share that he absolutely had mastered. I was so honored in a way, it was so laid out in plain view the simple joy and the very simple way he has…and I saw glory…His eyes sparkled and shone, he HAD this… What oh what, does the world do with a child whose vision is so glorious, but yet so unique? How can I as a momma keep his eyes shining and his joy and exuberance alive, yet help him grow into life in this world? The burden is great, but so is the GLORY!!

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Just adding this to the end of this blog post: can you help?? Home study ready family only:

Saw this posted. I have no other information than what is posted here:
National Down Syndrome Adoption Network
We have an adoptive situation in South Dakota and we need South Dakota families ONLY. No other states are being considered. We need interested families to call us immediately. Please call 513-709-1751. You MUST be a South Dakota resident. Thank you.  Now also opened to Wyoming.