I was young once, I was insecure once, I could not breathe once…
We were approved for special needs placements right from the beginning…but you see, in my head I had the view of what child I thought that meant… maybe drug exposed, maybe delayed, maybe diabetic… maybe deaf… but…
The phone rang (this was before cell phones were common) I can remember pacing back and forth as the worker asked if we would consider… a baby in Pittsburgh, born last weekend with Down syndrome… they had one family but they had just had a placement of another baby with Down syndrome not even three months ago and it was their third placement in two years…
My mind absolutely raced… I had not planned for this…my other brain was saying well the mom did not plan for this either… and I was like … I have no idea where to begin, who do I contact for a doctor? What would I do for therapies, would our health insurance cover the baby… and on and on.. Then that calmer brain said, come on you could do this.. And one side of my brain won… We said, No.. I thought someone else might be better who knew how to DO IT!! Later of course we had the chance again.. and we said YES 🙂 Josiah is so precious to us… so very precious. Do not let fear RULE!!
That decision has haunted me, because, I could have done it! I just did not have confidence in ME… in US!! I just had no way to contact a tribe!! FB was not a thing, I knew only one person who had a child with DS.
Today you all are so very fortunate to have the world at your fingertips, to have advice from parents who are eager to help…raise a child with Down syndrome.
Stephanie Thompson, the director of the National Down Syndrome Adoption Network NEEDS families!! If you live in these states, she has NO families in her registry!! If she is contacted by an expectant mom, or a mom who has given birth…or an agency who needs a family for a baby with Down syndrome; she has to show them someone from another state, and sometimes the hospital stays for these little ones are LONG and being in the same state is a PLUS for that and, also, no ICPC and third… subsidy is much easier to apply for!! So can you believe it, these states have NO FAMILIES registered!
Connecticut Hawaii Delaware Illinois Kansas Kentucky Maine Massachusetts Michigan Mississippi Missouri Montana Nebraska Nevada New Hampshire New Mexico North Carolina North Dakota Oklahoma Oregon Rhode Island South Carolina South Dakota Washington Wisconsin Wyoming
Other states have at least one family, but more are needed, because most families who adopt children with Down syndrome are older ,experienced families; that is not a BAD thing, but sometimes, the expectant families like to see a variety of families!! So if you are on the registry already, Stephanie appreciates each and every one of you!!
There is a SPECIAL need for families who are not gender specific and especially open to infant BOYS whose fees are over $10,000. Although the NDSAN charges NO fees… ZERO for their work… agencies and lawyers DO usually… Those fees, Stephanie cannot control and they can have quite a wide range.
IF you are NOT homestudy ready and wish to find an agency, also contact Stephanie who can give you the list she has of agencies in YOUR state that are experienced in special needs placements!! This is so very important, as special needs placements can be much more time consuming and difficult!
To register as a family open to the placement of
infants or children with Down syndrome:
PLEASE contact, Stephanie Thompson at NDSAN,
there are ZERO fees to register, ZERO fees for their assistance!!
Please share! And thanks so much for saying YES!! , Esther